Monogamy, or being in a relationship with only one partner for an extended period of time (or your whole life) used to be the norm. But now, with relationships changing and people becoming more accepting of alternative lifestyles, more and more people are thinking about the pros and cons of being in a monogamous relationship.
List of Advantages of Monogamy
1. Emotional Security
While in a committed, monogamous relationship, most people can expect to be cared for emotionally. After building a relationship over years, partners understand each other and are able to meet emotional needs that strangers won’t be able to.
2. Financial Peace
Being able to rely on someone else to help pay for bills is a source of peace for a lot of people who are in monogamous relationships. No matter if the bill is for a house, medical care, or education, having someone help foot the bill is helpful.
3. Approval from Others
Although society has become more relaxed in how it views nontraditional relationships, as a whole, society still approves of monogamous relationships over other kinds. Religious groups especially tend to see monogamous relationships in a better light.
4. Lowered Risk of STDs
When you are only intimate with one person and they are committed to you, you can practically guarantee that neither of you will be exposed to an STD. This is a source of comfort for a lot of people who want a monogamous relationship.
List of Disadvantages of Monogamy
Being with the same person for years on end can lead to boredom, which, in turn, can lead to unhappiness. It’s important that people in monogamous relationships work hard to keep their relationship fresh, both in and out of the bedroom.
2. Change of Sexual Incompatibility
People grow and change over time, and sometimes that means that couples grow apart sexually. If you’re in a monogamous relationship but don’t feel sexually compatible with your partner it can be heartbreaking.
A lot of people are so interested in being in a monogamous relationship that they don’t give themselves the time to grow and discover who they really are. This can lead to settling and resentment as the partner doesn’t fulfill who the other really is.
There are a lot of pros and cons to consider when faced with entering into a monogamous relationship. This isn’t something to rush into, and it’s important to take time to think and talk things over with your partner.